Asperger Smarts / How not to deal with a predator

Do not make eye contact with a predator; this allows it to pick you out of the herd. Even worse is to RUN AWAY. This triggers the chase and kill instinct. Do not run.

The Chase: an instinct that is not going extinct.

The Chase: an instinct that is not going extinct.

I have thought quite a bit about socially dictated “rules” of eye contact that help define Aspergers as “developmentally disordered.” But – these rules are culturally subjective and diverse. I think it’s the instinctive response between animals that is causing huge problems. “Policing authorities” are designated predators-by-law and empowered to execute predatory behavior. Policing is not all about predation; police do protect and serve their communities, however, it’s no surprise that individuals who are comfortable with being a predator gravitate toward specific jobs. But, weaker  individuals, who may be very uncomfortable with the task of wielding power, may end up in such jobs and that’s also a problem.

The following also applies to autistic, Asperger, disabled and those with mental vulnerabilities: contrary to modern sentiment, predators “select” the vulnerable as their targets; the young, the old, the injured.  

There are situations that trigger the predatory response, especially if the person stopped by the police unwittingly switches into prey behavior – notably, running away. A natural response (especially for young black males, who ARE prey) that may jump-starts predatory behavior in a police officer.

The racial aspect of this is huge. The history of White and African relationships is one of predation of black people by white people. There is something else that is overlooked: the stereotyping of black males by entertainment, the media, sports, etc. is utterly skewed: Big, black, aggressive, out-of-control and criminally active are adjectives that dominate the white view of black males: dangerous on all counts.

Stop and take one minute to examine this stereotype: black males are always the aggressors. Ridiculous! These are human beings who way more often than not are frightened, intimidated, harassed, and tragically, are often trying to live up to the “Big Bad Black Male” stereotype. Are black men allowed to feel fear, pain, and sorrow? Are they allowed to be gentle, caring and intelligent?


To the public observer, the act of running away is “non-threatening” and the police reaction is baffling and “over the top.” We are viewing the event rationally – a given situation has escalated way beyond what we would imagine ourselves doing. A person who is running away is obviously not a threat. It’s not about threat; it’s about acting like prey and pulling the predatory trigger.

As an Asperger, I can describe my reactions regarding eye contact. (I do not react well to  aggressive people.)

1. The other person is invading my comfort zone. It’s a breach of “boundary etiquette.” If the person stands too close (and stares) I will gain space in any number of benign ways, including calculated removal of myself from the area. I will avoid eye contact naturally, instinctively, because eye contact with predators rings their bell.

2. If the person is not aggressive, and a conversation takes place, I will switch to listening mode, because his or her appearance is no longer vital; my visual system has sized up the person and decided that he or she is “friendly.” This is intuitive. I will likely keep adjusting the “space” between us, which probably looks weird to other people.


3 thoughts on “Asperger Smarts / How not to deal with a predator

  1. Among peers, eye contact means something entirely different (re domination)

    It usually IS about domination when one is seen as a ‘gross social inferior’ – which seems the rule for autists in Normdom’s purview.

    To see an *an example* of ‘eye contact as domination’, watch the movie “land of mine” (danish, I think). There’s one scene that demonstates this ***blatantly*** – a scene where the Danish (sergeant?) ‘Stares down’ his teenage former wehrmacht late-war draftee captive.

    This illustrates more-or-less ***exactly*** what goes down when Normies ***demand*** eye-contact from autists.


  2. I’m pretty sure that eye-contact isn’t always about domination. I know the game ( only lost it twice as a teenager- against one guy wearing sunglasses and later against one policeman who was not just pretending to be really tough). But I do keep eye-contact with dogs who like me, without struggling for domination or any of that shit. If you’re looking the dogs who live with you in the eyes I’m sure it’s not about domination but loving communication. Well those were some thoughts about eye-contact. I did appreciate your thoughts on eye-contact and african americans as being prey of white domination. But I think regarding eye-contact between fucking police and people we should ask blacks about their experience .


    • No, it’s not always about domination, but I was thinking about it in the context of authority-predator vs. prey. Anytime there are two people of unequal status, there is the potential for predatory behavior, even if slight – just acknowledgement of the inequality. Black people call it “Driving while black” or “Walking while black” – the tendency to be stopped and hassled on flimsy excuses like jaywalking or minor vehicle damage like a broken tail light. At times it looks like the point of the provocation is to cause a reaction that permits an arrest. There’s another factor that makes me suspicious. Police forces prefer to hire ex-military – how many are suffering from undiagnosed PTSD that is triggered by intense confrontations with suspects?


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