We read list after list of Asperger traits that portray us as dreadful sub humans, who by our very presence “ruin” the perfect neurotypical monopoly on “what (god) designed” to be the perfect human –
Rarely do we get a description of NTs, by NTs, of what a Neurotypical person is like.
* Posted by SALVE© Karen Rodman (a psychologist) 2013 Founder and Director FAAAS Inc. Website: “The Truth About Aspergers” (see source of this list at bottom)
Mature Developmental Milestones / Neurotypicals:
- know themselves
- can string together a series of actions, words, ideas to communicate their intentions to another person.
- know themselves in terms of ideas
- picture themselves and others together in their minds.
- generate ideas and tell the world about them with their words.
- grow more complex each day
- are logical, cohesive, thinking people.
- have an expanding complex sense of self
- new experience stirs their interests and capabilities in new directions
- millions of daily interactions, smiles, glances, every question further builds a sense of self
- continually layer on additional cognitive, intellectual, emotional and social skills to serve them throughout their life.
- self regulates
- is interested in the wider world
- is able to navigate and sustain intimacy, engagement and falling in love
- able to conduct a two-way conversation
- uses complex verbal and non-verbal communication
- nurtures and understands emotional ideas
- able to combine emotional and logical thinking
- uses multi causal and triangular thinking investing emotion into more than one possibility
- understands family dynamics and the roles of various people, such as parent.
- understand family dynamics in terms of relationships among different people, rather than just in terms of whether they get their own needs met.
- use Grey-area, Emotionally-Differentiated Thinking (Greenspan)
- understanding of varying degrees and relative influence of things,
Wow! All this, and more…
- able to weigh factors and relative influences
- find new ways to solve problems and compromise.
- has a sense of self and ability for reflection on their own internal standard
- judges their own and others experience
- able to rate their own behaviour
- rate the behaviour of others
- make inferences
- think in more than one frame of reference at a time.
- can create new ideas from existing ones
- can consider both the past and the future.
- a level of intelligence and mature thinking.
- continue to develop throughout life
- have an expanded sense of self that includes family and community relationships
- have the ability to reflect on one’s future
- have a stable, separate sense of self
- able to navigate intimacy and commitment (including long-term commitments such as marriage, home ownership and a career)
- understands parenthood and other nurturing roles
- broadening perspectives on time, space, the life cycle and the larger world
- has a sense of responsibility to the environment and future generations, along with a sense of perspective on ones’ place in the grand scheme of things.display and use Emotional Intelligence (Goleman)
- have Self-awareness
- ability to recognize and understand their own personal moods and emotions and drives, as well as their effect on others
- self-confidence, realistic self-assessment, and a self-deprecating sense of humour.
- ability to monitor one’s own emotion state and to correctly identify and name one’s emotions.
- realistic self-assessment
- ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods,
- propensity to suspend judgment and to think before acting. Hallmarks include trustworthiness and integrity; comfort with ambiguity; and openness to change
- A passion to work for internal reasons that go beyond money and status -which are external rewards, – such as an inner vision of what is important in life, a joy in doing something, curiosity in learning, a flow that comes with being immersed in an activity.
- A propensity to pursue goals with energy and persistence. Hallmarks include a strong drive to achieve, optimism even in the face of failure, and organizational commitment.
- Empathy includes, or leads to, sympathy, which implies concern, or care or a wish to soften negative emotions or experiences in others.
- ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people
- skill in treating people according to their emotional reactions. Hallmarks include expertise in building and retaining relationships, cross-cultural sensitivity, service to others without thought of return.
- shows compassion
- proficient social skills
- Proficiency in managing relationships and building networks, and an ability to find common ground and build rapport. Hallmarks of social skills include effectiveness in leading change, persuasiveness, expertise building and leading others.
How many Neurotypicals qualify as Neurotypical, if we use this “list” as the criteria?
From Psychology Today: Delusional disorder refers to a condition in which an individual displays one or more delusions for one month or longer. Delusional disorder is distinct from schizophrenia and cannot be diagnosed if a person meets the criteria for schizophrenia. If a person has delusional disorder, functioning is generally not impaired and behavior is not obviously odd, with the exception of the delusion. Delusions may seem believable at face value, and patients may appear normal as long as an outsider does not touch upon their delusional themes. Also, these delusions are not due to a medical condition or substance abuse.
http://www.icdl.com/DIR/6-developmental-milestones ICDL (An Autism Organization) – From the site:
DIR® has a deep foundation in the science of human development and can sound very technical at times. However, it is also very simple. It is a way to understand our children and each other that builds connections, understanding, love, communication, and engagement. Through this approach, the true potential of each person can be discovered.
Daniel Goleman / psychologist (GOOGLE) (born March 7, 1946) is an author and science journalist. For twelve years, he wrote for The New York Times, reporting on the brain and behavioral sciences. His 1995 book Emotional Intelligence was on The New York Times Best Seller list for a year-and-a-half, a best-seller in many countries, and is in print worldwide in 40 languages. Apart from his books on emotional intelligence, Goleman has written books on topics including self-deception, creativity, transparency, meditation, social and emotional learning, ecoliteracy and the ecological crisis, and the Dalai Lama’s vision for the future.