Note how “honest observation, opinion and facts” are characterized as “dirty water” containing “dirt and germs” – The child’s true opinion or feelings are always bad. The focus is placed entirely on “other people’s feelings” Is it any surprise that American children are obsessed with social opinion and possess the self-confidence of door mats?
The message is that a child must always lie to protect other people’s feelings. How bizarre! The truth is believed to always “hurt” people’s feelings, not help them to feel better! This is the social command, regardless of whether or not a person’s feelings are justified, immoral, destructive, ridiculous or unrealistic.
But wait! There’s more:
“Your SOCIAL FILTER helps you:
Protect a friend’s feelings. (Threat of abandonment)
Save you from being embarrassed. (Threat of humiliation.)
Show respect to adults in charge. (Obedience to authority)
Stay out of trouble. (Threat of punishment)
Social Filter is ON: Thinking about other people’s feelings. Using kind, friendly words.
Social Filter OFF: Only thinking about myself. I’m not trying to protect other people’s feelings. I might embarrass myself.
Is it surprising that school children are failing academically? A surprise that religious “beliefs” can’t be questioned and that science is discredited?
Is it surprising that Americans are afraid of “hurting the feelings” of criminals and terrorists and fail to notify police or the FBI of suspicious activity? Or that child abuse is so rarely reported by victims?