Neurosocial Empathy / I feel your pain – not really

Is this not a great idea?

Is this not a great idea?

One might think that after being yelled at thousands of times by neurosocials, we Asperger types would realize that their stories of pain and frustration (which often are self-imposed; the result of failed actions repeated over and over, or are due to a simple lack of practical or scientific knowledge) are not requests for help. Asperger individuals stupidly persist in offering solutions because it is in our nature to solve problems. If a person describes a situation that is causing them confusion and pain, and if I can unravel a tangle of erroneous beliefs and misinformation that is causing it, why wouldn’t I make the effort? Wake up! This is empathy!

The desire to substantially aid another human being is considered a great defect by neurosocials. Solving problems often requires a change of mind, learning facts and making an effort. Many neurosocials prefer to wait for a miracle.

Asperger people are accused of lacking a Theory of Mind and are told that empathy, compassion, or any ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes is absent from our soulless bodies: The desire to help in ways that produce results is not of value to social humans. The social definition of empathy rejects and excludes rational response and tangible returns. A theater of gestures, facial expressions, words of sympathy, cute balloons and cards are not only preferred, but demanded and scrutinized by the gatekeepers of normal human behavior – Puritanical psychologists who consider their theories (which aren’t actually theories, but dogma), to be the sole measure of human feeling. Some psychologists acknowledge that cognitive empathy does exist, but it doesn’t count toward being an acceptable human being. Hence the label invented by Simon Baron Cohen for Asperger kids: “positive psychopaths.”


These narrow criteria of what it means to be human not only impinge on the freedom of expression of Asperger types, but social typical people are stripped of honest communication by the well-policed forms of interaction that society imposes.

The majority of any population is composed of low ranking children, women, minorities and the poor; this portion of humanity are required to stifle their thoughts and reactions in order to preserve the vastly unequal layers of the social pyramid. “Allowing” people to speak honestly is socially taboo, because honest expression between people confers equality – moreover, solving problems upsets the social pyramid of power.

Politicians don’t answer questions, but deliver canned speeches about “addressing issues” “having meetings” “talking to their advisors” and they are perpetually  “about to begin looking into the problem.” They claim to “be listening.” New and thorough problem-solving expeditions are promised, but don’t go anywhere. An example is fervent promises to honor veterans, who have been abandoned by the agencies tasked with “caring” for them.


The ill-treatment of the majority of citizens who occupy the bottom of the social hierarchy, is the source of power at the top. It’s a structural fact: Why would any politician or plutocrat “solve” a problem and put him or herself out of a job? Social typical people are taught that there are no real solutions, only supernatural disappointments. Real action and results are dismissed as more rare than miracles.

There is plenty of shallow emotional empathy floating around: a gesture, a hug, a promise and utterly insincere pledges of support – a word devoid of meaning. When Asperger people don’t perform social charades, we’re effectively exiled by those who claim to know who is normal: after all, the condition called “normal” is the powerful coercive invention of the predators at the top of the pyramid.



4 thoughts on “Neurosocial Empathy / I feel your pain – not really

  1. Also, ‘visual thinking’ takes *real work* to use to do magic(k) as it tends to be focused upon ‘the world-that-is’ instead of ‘the-world-which-is-desired’.

    In contrast, magic(k) exists within ‘symbolic language’, i.e. ‘thinking-in-words’ to such a degree that such ‘thinking’ is required to do (Normie) magic(k). This is so ***much*** the case that all ^current^ Normie leaders tend toward ‘glib and superficial’ forms of expression – which is not ***possible*** when one’s native mode of thinking is preferentially graphical in nature. (As is mine. I find thinking in picture especially helpful for most of what I do, in fact – including understanding Normdom’s rubbish…)


    • Two of my family members slipped over the “magical perception edge” at times and they were impossible to deal with when in that magic state of mind. It bugged me so much that it drove me to understand that I’m a “rational, real-world visual thinker”. Further experience with “humanity at large” forced me to grasp that magical thinking is the default mode of the human brain – stuck in a childhood developmental stage and only superficially able to “think” analytically and realistically by the adoption of “rule book rote” formulas for coping with physical reality. Not a pleasant realization. This acutely uncomfortable situation has driven my efforts to explain why and how two such incompatible types of brain processing and perceptions exist. Discovering that it’s most likely due to the evolutionary processes of natural and sexual selection for “juvenile” traits” that has facilitated hypersocial behavior is rewarding, but hardly satisfying. The “forced domestication” of wild humans into “hypersocial” environments is not a happy conclusion; the “extermination” of “wild humans” is morally unforgiveable.


  2. When humans emerged from Nature, we emerged from a vision-based world that we shared with animals. Certainly sounds were important, but not nearly as important as vision in establishing the reality of the world around us. The sense of vision was essential for all navigation within the environment, and for identifying all of the essentials for living and survival such as finding food, avoiding danger, and identifying a mate. The left brain thoughts of humans became mapped on top of the right brain world from which we came; and which had previously completely represented the reality of the world in which we had always survived. The thoughts came from within – they came from and represented the “self” from the right brain. The left brain awareness of the right brain awareness of “self”, has become the human ego. Animals don’t have an ego, they only have an awareness of “self”.

    Figure. The mapping of the left brain thinking (“Ego”) on top of the right brain concept of “Self”. The deepest sense of “self” comes from the non-verbal and visually based cognition. Our thinking “ego” is the verbal overlay on the pre-existing visual sense of “self”.

    The story of Adam and Eve begins in the Garden of Eden, where we are at one with nature. There are two named trees in the garden: the Tree of Life and the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil. We can eat freely from the Tree of Life. At this point, we are harmonious with nature in a visually based world without words. Up until this point in time we have not developed thinking ability or human ego and do not see ourselves as separate from the environment around us. This was almost certainly the state of living things prior to development of human speech. Adam could eat freely from the Tree of Life and continue to be in harmony with and a part of nature. He could walk without clothes and not be ashamed – he could not “think” about the fact he was naked. In nature, prior to thinking and human ego, there was no judgment of good or bad. In nature, everything just exists. Thinking and human ego must be present in order to make judgment.

    Before thinking and human ego, we were harmonious with nature and lived freely, equally and non-judgmentally with all other living things.

    When we were part of nature, we did not make judgments between good and bad. However, as soon as we ate the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, we separated ourselves from nature. Prior to the development of human ego (i.e. eating the fruit) there was no right or wrong. There is no right or wrong in nature – things just are.


    • Strange synchronicity! Just before I woke up I was dreaming of a preacher lecturing the people in his church that they shouldn’t be naked in church – but no one was naked except the preacher! No lie! I checked my blog while coffee was brewing and encountered your comment..

      I agree that early humans were almost exclusively visual thinkers. I’m sure that sound communication also was used, but it’s obvious that our complex “babble” world of verbal languages could not have existed, since languages are cultural “machines” that clearly developed, spread and changed radically over human history, and continue to do so. If there had not been “dominant” “knowledge” languages, such as Greek, Latin, and now English, all the knowledge “locked away” in language (word concept thinking – generalities, abstractions) could not have been communicated between disparate peoples who migrated to new environments: separation fostered new cultures, new languages; but this also made “verbal communication” a problem! Your “local” language may actually isolate you from other groups and individuals more profoundly than distance. There continue to be groups living within a few miles of each other today, who cannot understand each other verbally. This is not only true of “tribal people”, but in the developed nations.

      Visual communication however “connects” as it always has: a Coca Cola logo, the image of a sports figure, or a powerful animal predator attached to a product, speaks loudly in New Guinea, Paris or Mumbai, just as the images of pharaohs, kings and emperors, and their “visual” messages of culture and power symbols communicated to their “subject” peoples, regardless of their verbal languages. We tend to “forget” that until very recently, humanity was illiterate; writing invented a few thousand ago was at first pragmatic, but soon developed socially isolated forms; often by merely encoding knowledge in the languages available to an elite “educated” class.

      I don’t share your romantic vision of an idyllic “pre-garden” existence. I think the story is a powerful metaphor for what has been lost as human populations “gave up” a visually and “spiritually” embedded existence for an external “control system” dominated by human aggression. Nature’s more observable, even if seemingly capricious laws, also provide for life; natural processes “give” life and create the environments that sustain us.

      As a visually-dominant individual, I “sense” this loss acutely: the transition between a visually “giving” landscape (which I have found in Wyoming) into the American “life-sucking” verbal-social human context is devastating.


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