One might think that after being yelled at thousands of times by neurosocials, we Asperger types would realize that their stories of pain and frustration (which often are self-imposed; the result of failed actions repeated over and over, or are due to a simple lack of practical or scientific knowledge) are not requests for help. Asperger individuals stupidly persist in offering solutions because it is in our nature to solve problems. If a person describes a situation that is causing them confusion and pain, and if I can unravel a tangle of erroneous beliefs and misinformation that is causing it, why wouldn’t I make the effort? Wake up! This is empathy!
The desire to substantially aid another human being is considered a great defect by neurosocials. Solving problems often requires a change of mind, learning facts and making an effort. Many neurosocials prefer to wait for a miracle.
Asperger people are accused of lacking a Theory of Mind and are told that empathy, compassion, or any ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes is absent from our soulless bodies: The desire to help in ways that produce results is not of value to social humans. The social definition of empathy rejects and excludes rational response and tangible returns. A theater of gestures, facial expressions, words of sympathy, cute balloons and cards are not only preferred, but demanded and scrutinized by the gatekeepers of normal human behavior – Puritanical psychologists who consider their theories (which aren’t actually theories, but dogma), to be the sole measure of human feeling. Some psychologists acknowledge that cognitive empathy does exist, but it doesn’t count toward being an acceptable human being. Hence the label invented by Simon Baron Cohen for Asperger kids: “positive psychopaths.”
These narrow criteria of what it means to be human not only impinge on the freedom of expression of Asperger types, but social typical people are stripped of honest communication by the well-policed forms of interaction that society imposes.
The majority of any population is composed of low ranking children, women, minorities and the poor; this portion of humanity are required to stifle their thoughts and reactions in order to preserve the vastly unequal layers of the social pyramid. “Allowing” people to speak honestly is socially taboo, because honest expression between people confers equality – moreover, solving problems upsets the social pyramid of power.
Politicians don’t answer questions, but deliver canned speeches about “addressing issues” “having meetings” “talking to their advisors” and they are perpetually “about to begin looking into the problem.” They claim to “be listening.” New and thorough problem-solving expeditions are promised, but don’t go anywhere. An example is fervent promises to honor veterans, who have been abandoned by the agencies tasked with “caring” for them.
The ill-treatment of the majority of citizens who occupy the bottom of the social hierarchy, is the source of power at the top. It’s a structural fact: Why would any politician or plutocrat “solve” a problem and put him or herself out of a job? Social typical people are taught that there are no real solutions, only supernatural disappointments. Real action and results are dismissed as more rare than miracles.
There is plenty of shallow emotional empathy floating around: a gesture, a hug, a promise and utterly insincere pledges of support – a word devoid of meaning. When Asperger people don’t perform social charades, we’re effectively exiled by those who claim to know who is normal: after all, the condition called “normal” is the powerful coercive invention of the predators at the top of the pyramid.