just-the-factsDo neurotypicals fight over EVERYTHING? You Betcha! Neurotypical language is not about “the facts” but about flaming egos, power and who gets away with “bad behavior”

No one ought to apologize for delivering “the facts” – but that means knowing the facts, which Americans reject in favor of outlandish opinions.

Origin: Mid 16th century – a formal defense against an accusation.

Free Dictionary To express regret for something that one has done wrong. This definition retains the admission that one has actually done something “wrong’

Merriam Webster To express regret for doing or saying something wrong : to give or make an apology

Dictionary.com To offer an apology or excuse for some fault, insult, failure, or injury: 2. to make a formal defense in speech or writing.

British English: When you apologize to someone, you say that you are sorry that you have hurt them or caused trouble for them. Hedges the, “I did something wrong” admission: the offense may exist only in the mind of the person to whom the apology is given. Or am I misreading this nuance?


Neurotypicals are obsessed with making every human-to-human interaction into an insanely complicated nightmare. This is why Asperger’s are literally made physically and emotionally sick by social humans.


From Psychology.com

1. Apologizing doesn’t mean admitting inferiority, unworthiness, or weakness. It doesn’t mean groveling or debasing yourself. People who demand that of you aren’t asking for an apology. They are asking for submission, and that is quite a different thing: this is the basis of political speech and “politically correct” speech.

2. An apology first and foremost communicates a simple message that affirms your humanity and that of the injured party: “I see and I care”.

3. Genuine apologies also yield positive outcomes in lawsuits despite conventional wisdom that one should not apologize because it is an admission of guilt. Hence the availability of the no contest plea.


What crap! Has anyone ever believed that an apology by a politician means anything? Neurotypicals do! Forced apologies are “lies” – but neurotypicals accept these “coerced” statements as magically “erasing” the offense. Even more damaging is the belief that the magic word  INTENT supersedes the result and consequences of someone’s actions. (More on this tricky word later. )


What You Should Know about Pleading “No Contest” (from the Ohio State Bar Association)

Q:   What does it mean to plead “no contest” to a criminal or traffic offense?
A:    A plea is a person’s formal response to a criminal or traffic charge. A person charged with a criminal or traffic offense is called the defendant. The defendant can choose from the pleas of guilty, not guilty, not guilty by reason of insanity, or no-contest. Entering a plea refers to the judge’s act of formally noting a defendant’s plea, or “entering” it, in the court’s official file. If you enter a no-contest plea, it means that, while you do not admit your guilt, you do admit the truth of the facts alleged in the indictment, information or complaint (the so-called “charging” documents that start a criminal or traffic case). No-contest pleas are sometimes known as “nolo contendere” or just “nolo” pleas.
Q:    So what’s the difference between pleading guilty and pleading no contest?
A:     Good question. Sometimes there’s no difference whatsoever and sometimes there’s a big difference. If you plead guilty, you are admitting to the facts and the legal consequences of those facts. The benefit of a no-contest plea (when you admit the facts, but not your guilt) is that it allows you to avoid a trial if your defense has become hopeless, but it prevents the plea from being used against you in any later civil or criminal proceeding. It also allows you the opportunity to appeal rulings by the court, such as rulings allowing certain evidence to be used by the government.







Magic Words / “I apologize” Another meaningless social gesture

2 thoughts on “Magic Words / “I apologize” Another meaningless social gesture

  1. To the traditional British person good manners means that you are responsible for your actions, even if they were well-intended. It is not the intention but the consequence that matters. That means that when you deliver the kind of apology described above, there is no hedging.


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