Feeling time after time that you need to say “I’m sorry” while not knowing what you did that was “wrong”.
Being abandoned by a friend when he or she realizes that you are different “for real”, and not “just pretending”
Being treated like an object, as if you’re not standing there, and wanting to yell, “I’m human.”
Being referred to as ‘quirky’ ‘eccentric’ ‘our favorite weirdo’ or ‘strange, but harmless’, when being introduced to someone new, as if the person speaking anticipates that you will do something wrong, and apologizes beforehand because you may embarrass them.
People who criticize your need to spend time alone, but at the same time they want you to go away. In fact, they want anyone who isn’t like them to vanish from the universe.
Being told that you don’t care about people, nor do you want friends: that you are incapable of love and affection – by people who claim to care about people, but either they don’t, or they don’t consider you to be a person.
Being told that because you are intelligent, well-spoken and an attractive female that you can’t possibly be suffering.Your life is perfect in that shallow “social” way.
The pain of social lies, especially the big ones, about justice, equality, and fair play; the pervasive disrespect for people of ‘lesser’ value, by so-called “normal” people.
Living in a social world in which 90% of what humans need and value is missing.
The constant awareness of a cage of words and looks and expectations that social people demand, but without being aware that this cage confines them, not the Asperger person, for whom cages are unacceptable.
Knowing that accepting Asperger people into “society” would result in a happier and healthier human population; better distribution of resources, effective problem-solving and greater equality in society, but that nothing we can do or say will convince social people that we have a contribution to make.