The tendency for an Asperger person is to assume that someone who expresses distress wants help, but this is rarely the case. If an Asperger offers an observation, or suggests a solution, the well-intended advice is likely to be received with hostility – concrete solutions are the wrong answer. An Asperger may observe that neurotypicals attempt to resolve real world problems through manipulation of their own emotions, and even more frequently, the emotions of other people. For the social majority, who are confined to life on the social pyramid, the environment is composed exclusively of other social humans, so bad feelings, aggression, shame and bullying are ever-present as well as pro forma sympathy.
One might think that after being yelled at thousands of times, Aspergers would ‘get’ that people’s stories of frustration (which often are the result of failed actions repeated over and over, or are due to a simple lack of practical or scientific knowledge) are not requests for help. We stupidly persist because it is in our nature to solve problems. If a person describes a situation that is causing them confusion and pain, and one can unravel a tangle of erroneous beliefs and misinformation that is causing it, why wouldn’t one make the effort?
This desire to substantially aid another human being is considered a great defect. As a group, Aspergers people are accused of being blind to the minds of other people, and that empathy, compassion, or any ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes is absent from our soulless bodies. The truth is that we desire to help in ways that produce results. Unfortunately the social definition of empathy rejects and excludes rational response and tangible returns. A theater of gestures, facial expressions, and words of sympathy and commiseration are not only preferred, but demanded and scrutinized by the gatekeepers of “who is normal and who is not,” when “normal” is a convenient but non-existent state dreamed up by psychologists. The gatekeepers claim to own the behavior of all other human beings, which earns them a high position on the pyramid, just like the priesthoods of old. Neat trick. It’s a cruel system that keeps people trapped in self-inflicted negative behavior.
The narrow dictates (supported by flawed research and irresponsible conclusions) are handed down like holy texts by western psychologists: a chaos of notions, prescriptions, and arrogant absolutes, not only impinge on the freedom of Asperger types, but neurotypicals as well are stripped of honest communication by the well-policed forms of expression that psychological “theories” impose. The majority of any population – low ranking children, women, minorities and the poor, are required to stifle their thoughts and reactions in order to preserve the power of the Pharaohs at the top of the social pyramid.
Empowering people with the courage to speak honestly is socially taboo, because honest communication between people confers equality.