No, I’m not going to give this jerk any free publicity. Name Withheld. Edited for length.
Can you imagine the outrage if this person was addressing Black or Hispanic young people?
Hey! I was an Asperger teenager; this stuff is nuts!
Your Asperger Teen / What an ugly monster!
Due to Aspergers-related attitudes and behaviors…many teens may also experience the following associated problems:
Criminal Activity—Pain, loneliness and despair can lead to problems with drugs, sex and alcohol. In their overwhelming need to fit in and make friends (?) Really? some Aspergers teens fall into the wrong high school crowds. “Average” teens who abuse substances will use the Aspergers teen’s naivety to get him to buy or carry drugs and liquor for their group. If cornered by a police officer, an Aspergers ( also African American teenagers?) teen usually does not have the skill to answer the officer’s questions appropriately. For example, if the officer says, “Do you know how fast you were driving?” an Aspergers teen may reply bluntly, “Yes,” and thus appears to be a smart-aleck.
Depression and Acting Out—The teenage years are more emotional for everyone. Yet the hormonal changes of adolescence coupled with the problems outlined above might mean that an Aspergers teen becomes emotionally overwhelmed. Childish tantrums reappear. Boys often act-out by physically attacking a teacher or peer…Suicide and drug addiction become real concerns, as the teen now has access to cars, drugs and alcohol.
Inability to “Be a Teen”—An Aspergers teen typically does not care about fads and clothing styles (concerns that obsess all others in their peer group). Aspergers teens may neglect their hygiene and wear the same haircut for years. Boys forget to shave; girls don’t comb their hair or follow fashion. (The horror! The Horror!) Some Aspergers teens remain stuck in a grammar school clothes and hobbies such as unicorns and Legos, instead of moving into adolescent concerns like FaceBook and dating. Aspergers boys often have no motor coordination. This leaves them out of high school sports, typically an essential area of male bonding and friendship.
School Failures—Many Aspergers teens with their average to above average Iqs can sail through grammar school, and yet hit academic problems in middle and high school. They now have to deal with four to six teachers, instead of just one… Aspergers student now has to face a series of classroom environments with different classmates, odors, distractions and noise levels, and sets of expectations. Aspergers teens with their distractibility and difficulty organizing materials face similar academic problems as students with Attention Deficit Disorder. A high school term paper or a science fair project becomes impossible to manage because no one has taught the Aspergers teen how to break it up into a series of small steps.
Sexual Issues—Aspergers teens are not privy to street knowledge of sex and dating behaviors that other teens pick up naturally. (Yes, it’s preferable for kids to learn about sex in the streets!!) This leaves them naive and clueless about sex. (Sex education does not exist – Christians forbid it – only street sex. Boys can become obsessed with Internet pornography and masturbation. They can be overly forward with a girl who is merely being kind, and then later face charges of stalking her.
An Aspergers girl may have a fully developed female body and no understanding of flirtation and non-verbal sexual cues, making her susceptible to harassment and even date rape. (Just like all those other women who are raped – it’s the victim’s fault)
Social Isolation—In the teenage world where everyone feels insecure, teens that appear different are voted off the island. Aspergers teens often have odd mannerisms… talks in a loud un-modulated voice, avoids eye contact, interrupts others, violates their physical space, and steers the conversation to her favorite odd topic. Another appears willful, selfish and aloof, mostly because he is unable to share his thoughts and feelings with others. Isolated and alone, many Aspergers teens are too anxious to initiate social contact. Many Aspergers teens are stiff and rule-oriented and act like little adults, which is a deadly trait in any teenage popularity contest.
Friendship and all its nuances of reciprocity can be exhausting for an Aspergers teen, even though he wants it more than anything else. One teenager ended a close friendship with this note: “Your expectations exhaust me. The phone calls, the talks, all your feelings… it’s just too much for me. I can’t take it anymore.”
As the years go by, are you seeing your Aspergers child rapidly becoming reduced to a person who is surviving on:
- Being a mistake
- Low self esteem
- Self hate
Have you heard your Aspergers teenager say things like:
- “I am a mistake.”
- “I am dumb.”
- “I am useless.”
- “I hate myself.”
- “I wish I was dead.”
- “What is wrong with me?”
- “Why was I born?”
If so, then alarm bells should be going off.
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